Mother’s Day is this Sunday, and it isn’t a happy celebration for everyone. Whether your relationship with your mom isn’t great, your mother has passed away, or you’ve struggled with having kids, Mother’s Day can be a painful reminder of what you’ve gone through. If you’re dreading this particular holiday, we’d like to know: what strategies do you use to deal with Mother’s Day?

We know this can be a really difficult topic, but we hope that hearing how other people cope on a day that sucks for them too can make it a little easier. Share your own tips and advice in the discussion below, or just commiserate. You’re not alone.